Say It Once: What's Keeping Your Child From Listening?
Find out what is happening before and during those tough moments with your child when they seem to be tuning you out. Then learn simple shifts to gain influence without the wordy spiral.
If you have ever thought, "The more I talk, the less my child listens," you are not imagining it. You know that moment when you say, "Shoes on," and suddenly you are giving a full TED Talk about time, responsibility, and "why we cannot be late" again? Meanwhile your child is staring through you like you are background music.
That is because once a child hits the resistance and pushback mode, extra explaining can overload their nervous system and push them into self-protection, like arguing, ignoring, or shutting down.
Most parents start talking more when things feel out of control. It makes sense. You are trying to get the day back on track.
But in those moments, more words mean less influence.
What works better is a clear setup ahead of time (what you expect and what you will do if they resist), and a calm headline in the moment (one short phrase), then consistent action.
This quiz helps you pinpoint your current pattern. It also shows you exactly what to tweak so your child hears you more and you feel less helpless.
Clarity on what you tend to do before the moment, whether you set expectations or end up winging it
Discover your preparation patterns.
Insight into what you do in the moment, whether you stick to a headline "one phrase request" or slide into the full article "lecture"
Understand your communication style.
Your biggest "influence leak" (the habit makes them less likely to listen, even when you have good intentions)
Identify what's blocking your influence.
Simple headline scripts you can use for common flashpoints (bedtime, tone, chores)
Get practical scripts you can use right away.
How It Works
Answer 6 quick questions
Simple, relatable scenarios from your daily life.
Discover your communication style
Learn how you're currently communicating with your child.
Get tailored strategies
Get Rachel's resources to help you say it once and follow through calmly.
What You'll Get
- Clarity on what you tend to do before the moment, whether you set expectations or end up winging it
- Insight into what you do in the moment, whether you stick to a headline "one phrase request" or slide into the full article "lecture"
- Your biggest "influence leak" (the habit makes them less likely to listen, even when you have good intentions)
- Simple headline scripts you can use for common flashpoints (bedtime, tone, chores)
- A follow-through plan that feels calm and doable, not harsh and not emotional
- Your free cheatsheet: "Say It Once: A Plan for When Kids Push Back."
Every parent has unique strengths. This quiz is here to encourage and empower - never to judge.