How Are You Shaping Your Child's Zone of Tolerance?
Find out how your responses to your child's big feelings are affecting their ability to handle discomfort, and learn small shifts that can make hard moments feel lighter for both of you.
When your child has a big reaction (they melt down, shut down, become disrespectful or irritable, etc), it is a sign of their low capacity to handle uncomfortable feelings.
You can think of the capacity to handle discomfort like a bottle. That bottle represents their zone of tolerance. When your child has a narrow opening in their bottle, or narrow zone of tolerance, even the smallest discomfort can make their nervous system feel like there is a real threat, which results in them going into a fight or flight mode.
The way you respond to those big reactions -- your words, your energy, your next move -- all send powerful messages to your child's nervous system about whether discomfort is a danger or something they can handle… first with support, and then on their own.
This quiz helps you see how you are currently shaping your child's zone of tolerance and what you can do to widen it, so your child can handle more of life without constant explosions or shutdowns.
Clarity on how you usually respond when your child is overwhelmed
Discover your natural response patterns.
Insight into whether your current approach stretches or shrinks their tolerance
Understand the impact of your responses.
Your "support style" and how it helps your child feel safe with discomfort
Learn your unique support style.
Gentle ideas to grow your own skills, so you can guide instead of getting pulled into the storm
Get practical strategies you can use right away.
How It Works
Answer 7 quick questions
Simple, relatable scenarios from your daily life.
Discover your support style
Learn how you're currently shaping your child's zone of tolerance.
Get tailored strategies
Get Rachel's resources to help you widen your child's zone of tolerance.
What You'll Get
- Clarity on how you usually respond when your child is overwhelmed
- Insight into whether your current approach stretches or shrinks their tolerance
- Your "support style" and how it helps your child feel safe with discomfort
- Gentle ideas to grow your own skills, so you can guide instead of getting pulled into the storm
- Your free cheatsheet: "How to Help Your Child Improve and Handle Discomfort"
Every parent has unique strengths. This quiz is here to encourage and empower - never to judge.